tonks-apior asked: Hey Zoey, I just wanted to ask, how do you stay happy? Surely there's some things that get you down, how do you recover from that? You're such an inspiration and you are a really happy and awesome person. It's just lately I've been feeling down and my "doctor" thinks it's depression or anxiety. I really look up to you as a person, and I think that you are the most beautiful person I've ever come across. I really do admire your personality. Thank you, and have a nice day.
If you keep trying to stay happy when you’re feeling down, you’re only going to make yourself feel more upset when you can’t do it. The secret to happiness, in my experience, is to allow yourself to be unhappy.
Allow your body to feel those emotions, do not hide them. When you feel like you want to cry, cry. It’s a better release than pretending to be happy.
No-one can be happy 100% of the time, it’s an unattainable goal, things happen in life, misfortune, loss, fear, stress, that would make it impossible.
I may seem happy on YouTube, in Tumblr posts, Tweets, wherever, but that’s simply because I choose not to show the sad times. That’s not to say I don’t have them, I get sad sometimes just like any other person, but as I said, the thing that allows me to be happy on camera, is the fact that I allow myself to be unhappy when I need to be.
So I simply say, when you’re feeling upset, when bad things happen, allow yourself to feel those emotions. It’s two sides of the same coin, it’s the yin and yang, one cannot exist without the other. By allowing your body to experience that pain, sorrow, grief, it allows you to better appreciate the moments of wonder, merriment, and joy. By attempting to force your body to only show one side, the other will still exist, eating away at you, until you have no choice but to show it, and then it will be much harder to get past.
Balance in all things, one cannot exist without the other, by allowing yourself to feel all emotions equally, you will find you eventually have much more control over them. To allow yourself to be happy, you must first allow yourself to be sad.
Have a nice day, you’re awesome. <3